Last year gave me the incredible opportunity to stand shoulder to shoulder with other profound queer speakers as part of Queerstories.
Queerstories for the uninitiated is a regular live storytelling event offering a platform for sexual and gender diverse people to share pieces of their lives. Sometimes comic, sometimes tragic, but always meaningful, Queerstories draws people from all manner of backgrounds, and with some luck opens a few eyes along the way.
A very special thank you goes to Maeve Marsden and all the others without whom such a wonderful event would not be.
Since the transition from Shimmerverse.com to the new domain it seemed fitting that I should, on occasion, share thoughts and feelings in blog form. Here is the first.
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At some point I became a kind of veteran of the transgender community. Don’t ask me how it happened. Perhaps after eleven years of transition it was inevitable.
Young transgender women – or at least transgender women who’ve recently found themselves – come to me for advice. Sometimes it’s for resources, sometimes it’s about confidence and self-care, but more often than not it’s about wanting to be ‘more like’ a girl or woman.
First of all let me say that there is nothing wrong with these women asking how to better be their newly minted or emerging gender. Not all of us have the constitution to stand up and be fully authentic in a world that likes to put us in our place.
I don’t blame these women because I used to be that woman, but now whenever I am asked this question it comes with a swell of discomfort. Continue reading “BLOG: On Being ‘Like’ A Girl”